9 years ago, Today

My Dad was dying long before I even knew it, that’s not me being harsh or being insensitive. My Dad was battling prostate cancer for over 15 years, long before I was even aware he was ill. I was 17 years old when my Parents told me that my Dad had stage 4 prostate cancer. That…

Comfort in uncharted territory.

Being ashamed of your situation, relationship and/or decisions brings you nowhere. I’ve had so many of my guy friends and acquaintances approach me in the past months mentioning the recent blogs posted by Pinky and myself. All same shit, different diaper. Don’t get me wrong, I’m absolutely flattered people read the randomness and actually absorb…

Is she the ‘One’?…

How do you know if she’s the ‘One‘ you want to be with until the sun stops rising? She will be the one you can’t imagine another day without. Even though she eats only the top half of the bagels and puts all the bottom halves back in the bag, you’re ok with it because…

Empty vows & empty promises

No one said relationships were easy, let alone marriage.  Vows and promises seem like words with no meaning after stubborn arguments, where nagging voices just fill the air. You begin to imagine life without that person you spent years fighting to be with. Are all the arguments, miscommunications, and annoyances all worth staying for? I mean its simple,…

When I Found Him

Finding him was like finally finding the missing puzzle piece. For the first time in a LONG time, I felt whole. He came unwillingly and took the weight off my shoulders & He dried every tear. He was my rock. He gave me the sparkle in my eye, the butterflies in my stomach, He made me weak in the knees. I saw…

Don’t Get Married.

As a married man, I can tell you whole-heartedly… Don’t get married. There’s some shit we go through to make things “work.” Is it worth it? The courtship is great, no strings attached. Just live. Get married, tie the knot, ball and chain… that’s a whole new story. Are you ready to give someone your…

Say you won’t let go …

Bring yourself back to the days where you were smitten by the thought about seeing their face, where hearing their voice would immediately put an ear-to-ear smile on your face. What happen to those days? Being in love with your spouse is never lost, it’s only prioritized differently as time goes on. Not saying that’s…

Say You’ll Stay …

After an avalanche of replies from a recent blog posted by Pinky, I was subtly nudged towards sharing my thoughts and ideas. Most guys I know don’t exactly advertise or share much of what’s really on their mind, so naturally we all follow suit. But what really goes on in the mind of a man…

When I Walked Away From My Marriage

It had been a tough few years. I’ve known my Husband since I was 5 years old, We practically grew-up together. And, after being together for 10 years and married for  9. My Husband and I no longer looked like the doe-eyed, fresh-faced newlyweds who eagerly got married on Christmas Morning. We no longer looked like that…

It’s a New Year & a New Day!

Happy almost New Years, Readers! It’s so crazy to me how fast this year went by — 2017 is going to be a GREAT year! I can feel it! I have been reading about how many people are ready for the year to end and to start a new with the new year. But, here…

Why I Stopped Giving Christmas Gifts.. 

Merry Christmas Eve valued Readers! Can you believe that Christmas is less than 12 hours away?! YIKES! That seriously went by quick! You’re probably reading my title and tilting your head and wondering, “why on earth does she not give gifts?! And, she has kids?!” I know shame on me. Go ahead point & judge,…

How I deal with ANXIETY

This was such a touchy subject for me to post about. I think I’ve written this more than once, deleted it, made it private and so on. I just never wanted to post it.  But, today (like many other days) I had a bad anxiety attack. I figured, although I maybe one of many who decide to speak-out on how they personally deal with anxiety. I figured maybe, just maybe,…